How Can I Engage in "Hitbodedut?" 10 Simple Tips to Help You Connect with Hashem and Yourself

“Hitbodedut” is one of the most meaningful paths to serving Hashem and developing spiritually. It is also a way to develop awe of Hashem and work on ourselves. Many struggle to understand how “hitbodedut” should be done correctly, especially in a busy world filled with internal and external noise. How can we escape distractions and give ourselves the time and space to practice “hitbodedut?” Here are some practical tips to help you engage in “hitbodedut” meaningfully and effectively:

1. Choose a quiet and secluded place

The first step in “hitbodedut” is finding a quiet place where you can be alone with yourself and Hashem. It doesn’t need to be completely isolated, but it should be a place where you won't be disturbed. It could be an empty room at home, a quiet beach, or somewhere outside. If possible, it's best to choose a natural setting, since nature itself can be a source of inner peace.

1. Set a daily or weekly time for “hitbodedut”

Start with a short amount of time. Dedicate fifteen minutes each day to “hitbodedut,” and gradually increase the time until you reach a full hour. It's important not to jump immediately to a long period of time and instead build up slowly, step by step. In this way, “hitbodedut” becomes a habit rather than a burden. Conduct “hitbodedut” at a fixed time of day, so the process becomes part of your routine rather than a random activity.

3. Begin with internal dialogue

Start your “hitbodedut” with an internal dialogue – speak to Hashem. Don't worry if at first you don't know exactly what to say. Simply open your heart and begin the conversation. It could be asking for forgiveness, a simple prayer about what you're feeling, or even an expression of gratitude. “Hitbodedut” doesn't need to be orderly or planned in advance – it's a place where you can release what's in your heart and focus on your connection with Hashem.

4. Avoid technological devices

If you really want to feel alone with yourself, it's important to avoid all devices during “hitbodedut.” Turn off your cell phone or leave it in another room. The fewer external distractions, the better you'll be able to connect with yourself and your Creator. Disconnecting from the external world helps you concentrate and focus on your inner quiet.

5. Start with Tehillim (Psalms) or a personal prayer

If you're not sure how to begin, you can start by opening Tehillim and reading a few chapters. The psalms of Tehillim are direct prayers that touch our souls. When you practice “hitbodedut,” psalms can serve as a spiritual thread that links you directly to Hashem. If you are at a loss for words, you can also simply speak openly to Hashem and share your thoughts and feelings.

6. Ask yourself internal questions

During “hitbodedut” ask yourself internal questions: What am I feeling right now? What am I going through? How can I feel closer to Hashem? What do I need to improve in my life? This is a time for genuine soul-searching. Sometimes, in the inner quiet, you can understand your true needs and begin to understand your trajectory in life.

7. Emphasize inner honesty

During “hitbodedut” don't try to hide what you're feeling from Hashem. “Hitbodedut” is a time when you're allowed to be honest with yourself and with the Creator. If you feel anger, frustration, fear, or insecurity, this is the place to share your feelings. Honesty is the key to spiritual growth. The more honest you are, the more inner peace you will experience.

8. Make “hitbodedut” intoa moment of "reconciliation" with yourself

“Hitbodedut” can also be a time to reconcile with yourself and let go of the anger and judgmental and critical attitudes directed at yourself. This is a time of reconciliation, where you forgive yourself, ask for forgiveness for past mistakes, and intend to improve your path.

9. Add time for silence or focus on breathing

Complete silence, or a moment to focus on your breathing, can also be part of “hitbodedut.” You can sit quietly for a certain amount of time, focus on your breathing, and concentrate on your bodily sensations. This silence allows your inner self to be revealed and become clearer.

10. Finish with a deep breath and gratitude

It’s important to finish “hitbodedut” with a deep breath and thank Hashem for the time you spent with Him. This is a time to feel thankful for the great gift of connection with spirituality and for the inner peace that was achieved. Even if you felt it was difficult to find answers, don't worry – this meeting with yourself and with Hashem will bring spiritual abundance to your life.

In conclusion, “hitbodedut” is a deep and calming way to enter a quiet inner place. With a few practical tips, everyone can find a way to authentically reconnect with their inner light and with the Creator. By setting a time and place, maintaining inner honesty, and focusing on the quiet, you can feel the depth and empowering influence of “hitbodedut” in your daily life.