"He Who Bestows Good Kindnesses" - Is There Such Thing as Bad Kindness?

Every day in prayer we say about Hashem "He Who Bestows Good Kindnesses".

Each of us says it, each of us intends for it.

But just a moment!

What are "good kindnesses"?

Can there be kindnesses that aren't good?

Isn't all kindness seemingly good!

What's the answer?

There is a kindness that isn't good.

To give a young and thriving man a large sum of money, it's to jeopardize his future.

To give a new driver a fast car, it's to risk his life.

Anything you do in an uncontrolled manner and without thinking, you're likely to ruin the life of the person you tried to bestow kindness upon.

There is "riches kept by their owner to his detriment" (Ecclesiastes 5:12), riches don't always mean good, and usually, they're not good...

Because what suits you and what is good for you is placed by Hashem at your doorstep and what isn't, you cannot attain it.

So, what is "He Who Bestows Good Kindnesses"?

Hashem gives you kindness in full alignment with your capacity to digest, with your teeth, with your ability to chew, not a bit more.

Sometimes it seems to you that what your neighbor, your friend, your family member has suits you too, but you don't know the substantial differences between you, the structure of the soul, the body, the mind, and many other things around you that differ from him, and that which is a blessing to him, could be a curse for you.

If you say "He Who Bestows Good Kindnesses" three times a day, trust Hashem that He knows what's good for you, much more than you think, because after all, He is all-powerful and He loves you and there's nothing He would want to give you that He couldn't, Heaven forbid.

If He doesn't give it to you, it's probably to your detriment, and if it's to your detriment, you don't want it either.

You should internalize this, live, look right and left, and understand that these family members, these friends at work, this paycheck, and the environment you live in, are the most fitting and amazing things for you.

A bit more, exactly as a bit less, could ruin your life.

Rejoice, enjoy, and thank Hashem for the good kindness He has bestowed upon you in a personal fitting.

And be blessed!