Why Did Grandma Visit Me in a Dream?

Every day, the Consultation Department at Hidabroot receives numerous inquiries on a variety of topics. In my twenty years with this unique department, I’ve heard almost every story imaginable – from brief, direct questions to tales that could be ripped from a fiction novel. I decided to share some of these stories with you, our readers.

One day, Avia, a young woman, called us. She was very upset after having a dream.

In her dream, her recently deceased grandmother appeared. Avia saw her with an unwell appearance, looking very stern and upset. Hoping to comfort her grandmother, Avia approached with a steaming bowl of Yemenite soup. But her grandmother pushed the soup away, as if to say, "I don't want anything from you."

"Why did Grandma come to me?" she asked. "What do her sickly appearance and refusal of my soup mean?"

According to Kabbalistic sources, signs received in dreams are meaningful. When a deceased person appears sick or hungry in a dream, it signals that they are in distress and in need of help. Such dreams are no small matter; it's a sign to examine them closely if they contain clear, tangible messages.

I explained to Avia that her grandmother likely appeared to her because she believed Avia could help. The illness meant she needed assistance, but why was she angry? Why did she reject the soup?

"Think about it," I advised Avia. "Is there something positive you used to do that you've stopped? Perhaps your grandmother is pointing you towards it."

After a brief pause, Avia responded with surprising certainty, "I know." Curious, I asked what came to mind, and she revealed, "When I got married, I covered my hair fully and regularly. Lately, I've been lax, leaving the house for short errands like a quick grocery trip without covering it. What should I do?"

I suggested she consider correcting this. A married woman is required to cover her hair in public, even for short trips. Perhaps her reduced observance angered her grandmother, causing her distress even in the afterlife, so much that she came to Avia to urge her correction.

Avia immediately resolved to maintain her hair covering as she used to, in memory of her grandmother. She told me this, and we concluded our conversation with a sense of peace.

The following Sunday, Avia called me again, this time sounding thrilled. "On Friday night, Grandma came to me in a dream again," she said, voice trembling with excitement. "This time she was smiling, her face radiant and joyful. She opened her arms to me and hugged me tightly, not letting go."

We don't always hear about the resolutions of the questions and requests that come our way. Such a beautiful closure is personally moving, knowing that I was able, with Hashem's help, to help another woman strengthen her spiritual practice and find peace and tranquility.

For advice and guidance from Rabbi Yaron Yitzchakov and the department team, call 073-2221230