Returning to Faith? 7 Essential Reminders

According to the Central Bureau of Statistics, over 200,000 people define themselves as 'returnees to faith'. That's a significant number from diverse backgrounds, embarking on a challenging journey of identity transformation. Despite the differences, these individuals share common lessons. Here are seven key insights for the path ahead:

Bridge

Initially, the returnee to faith is driven by a sense of mission. We stand between worlds—vastly different ones—that may speak the same language (Hebrew), yet are worlds apart. One is of faith and divine worship, the other of personal comfort and success. A social culture has developed around each, but the worlds remain distant. We, who have experienced both, understand this gap. Each side believes it knows the other, fueled by stereotypes and prejudices, lacking real dialogue. Perhaps our role is to be that bridge, the one that connects and understands, facilitating a link between these realms.

Question Mark

The term "returnees to faith" implies a singular, clear answer that we've found. But finding truth and a real connection with Hashem is elusive and dynamic. What defines us is our questioning nature—we are not here due to familial, societal, or financial pressures. Quite the opposite. We constantly seek truth, expressing and pursuing it endlessly. Beware those who believe they have captured the truth entirely. Better suited to us might be "returnees with questions" (though that term is taken). Fortunate are those who don't stop questioning and searching.

Rocket Launch

Launching a satellite requires overcoming Earth's gravitational forces, needing immense energy for initial propulsion. Returnees to faith face a similar struggle, battling rational and irrational forces. Initially, they may act extremely; this is crucial at first. The wisdom is recognizing this as temporary. Once they reach spiritual space, they must adjust, blending that initial zeal with everyday life, encompassing marriage, child-rearing, work, and integrating Torah with life.

Marathon or Sprint

In the early stages, spiritual enlightenment and enthusiasm can lead to relentless effort, cutting ties. Understanding that this is a marathon, not a sprint, is a profound realization; it's a long journey requiring balance. Ignoring mundane life aspects is impractical. Building a stable foundation of family, career, social ties, food, and rest is vital for further growth.

Religious "Evil Inclination"

Not all self-sacrifice in Hashem's honor stems from good intentions. The Torah's parable of the 'Ma'apilim' warns of misguided devotion. The evil inclination cunningly entraps not through known desires, but paradoxically through excess in religious observance, leading to burnout. Reb Nachman of Breslov also spoke of an evil inclination cloaked in mitzvot. Balance is key, as outlined by notable sages.

Boxing Match

Early on, returnees might engage in 'boxing matches' with peers to prove religious prowess—a natural phase of enthusiasm. However, shifting focus from competition to recognizing the good in everyone is the goal. Celebrating our role is to bridge the divide and offer understanding.

Level

In construction, a level ensures straight, balanced work. Spiritually, how do we assess our growth? Despite no direct divine feedback, family harmony and successful child-rearing are indicators. A peaceful, joyful home signifies being on the right path. Challenges may arise, but seeking guidance ensures alignment with genuine values.

Good Luck!

Published at Maane