Divine Insights: Empathy as Taught in the Torah

Empathy: A Timeless Torah Principle

Empathy is often recognized as a hallmark of individuals with a big heart — people capable of stepping into someone else's shoes, feeling their emotions, and understanding their perspective. In modern psychology, empathy includes the capacity to foster a sense of "togetherness." However, this is not a new concept; in Judaism, it's a longstanding value deeply rooted in Torah teachings.

Bearing the Burden: A Jewish Approach

In Jewish terms, empathy is expressed as "bearing the burden with your friend." This is beautifully illustrated by the verse in Shemot (Exodus 22:24): "If you lend money to My people, to the poor with you." Rashi, a renowned medieval Torah commentator, explains, "Consider yourself as if you are poor." This means that beyond offering financial aid, one should genuinely empathize with the person's feelings and distress.

At times, the practical solutions to problems are beyond our reach. Yet, we can still offer our presence and understanding — sharing in the pain, listening sincerely, empathizing, and reassuring others that they are not alone. While we might not solve the problem, we provide invaluable emotional support and minimize feelings of loneliness.

Cultivating Empathy: Strategies Rooted in Kindness

Truly Listen: Listening goes beyond capturing words; it involves understanding the emotional undertones. When listening, consider: How does this person feel? What do they need to hear from me right now?

Shift Focus: Empathy requires looking beyond oneself. Show genuine interest in those around you by asking about their lives, well-being, and endeavors. Maintain eye contact to foster a connection and convey empathy.

Practice Kindness: Engage in acts of giving and doing for others. This practice of kindness, a mitzvah (commandment) in itself, inherently builds empathy.

Observe and Learn: Look at empathetic individuals around you. Observe their actions and learn how they express empathy. Draw inspiration and adapt these behaviors.

Walk in Their Shoes: Visualize yourself in another’s situation. See the world through their perspective, understand their experiences, and feel their emotions.

Empathy, as an enduring principle from Torah teachings, reinforces our roles as compassionate individuals who share and alleviate the burdens of others. Through these strategies rooted in age-old wisdom, we can actively cultivate a more empathetic and understanding community.