An NLP Technique to Help You Lose Weight and Feel Great

How many times have you started a process of change in general, and a weight loss process in particular, and given up?

How often have you blamed the entire world for your situation, felt anger, disappointment, frustration, and despair, and then let those feelings cause you to slacken?

The foundation for successful change lies within us, in our internal world, not externally.

Getting more meal plans won't truly help you lose weight until you address your inner world, your feelings, and your beliefs.

What will make you change your feelings and achieve your results can be achieved very simply. In this article, as in all the videos and guides I conduct, I will give you a practical tool that will make you feel better using a simple and effective NLP technique that you can use immediately after reading this article.

Notice that what will help you lose weight and feel good is not reading the article, but using the technique.

Most people believe they feel good or bad because of external reasons - because of the people around them, their account status, because of COVID-19, the country, the guidelines, their family, their body... in short, they think their mood depends on external people and events.

The fundamental assumption is that we are the ones who generate our emotions, not external events.

Although external circumstances might influence our emotions, they do not create them. The deep reason for our emotions is the interpretation we give to events, and this interpretation is highly dependent on our inner processes, our belief system, and our self-image.

As someone who accompanies hundreds of clients in change processes, mainly weight loss, I see every day how one's personal space affects emotions.

Example: Two women are in a weight-loss mentoring process, receiving the same content and support. Let's say both "fell" into overeating. One will accept the fall with grace and feel good. She will say, "I fell. It's all right, I ate, I enjoyed it.. it's part of the process, we continue."

The second will blame herself and feel very bad. She will say, "This always happens to me. I have no self-control, I'm tired of it..."

I emphasize: both receive the same content that teaches how to handle falls (I will expand on handling falls in the next article).

Thus, according to the example, we see that even though there was an identical situation, the feeling varies greatly. One feels good and the other feels bad. One continues with the process and reaches the size she aspires to, and the other struggles until she eventually gives up, defeated and frustrated.

The deep reason for the emotion is not the external event but the internal process occurring through internal dialogue.

What Questions Lead to Negative Emotions?

Often, people's unconscious automation focuses on the negative and directs attention to problems instead of solutions, asking disempowering questions that come with cognitive distortions of generalizations, distortions, and omissions.

Examples of disempowering questions and statements:

Why does this always happen to me?

Why am I the only one who can't succeed?

Why does it work for everyone else but not for me?

What will become of me?

It will never succeed for me.

Of course, when we ask such questions, we receive answers that "prove" why we don't succeed.

I liken the internal dialogue to a Google search engine. If we ask Google, "What frightening things are there in the world," we will receive a list of all the frightening results existing in the world.

Is it conceivable that there are only frightening things in the world? Of course not. There is a wide range of enjoyable things in the world, but to see them we perform a simple action. If we want to see exciting and enjoyable things, we change the search question, and instantly the results that appear on the screen change.

Breaking the Automatism

To change the unconscious automation of focusing on the negative, we focus on breaking the mind's automatisms.

Our brain is flexible and can create new automatisms by creating new neural connections. Every time a disempowering question pops up - recognize that it comes from your automatic thinking. Take a moment, breathe deeply, and replace the disempowering question with an empowering one.

This process will create a change in your automatisms, generate new neural connections, and then you'll create thought patterns that will enable you to achieve better results and feel good.

Here is a set of questions, that if asked attentively, will lead you to generate positive emotions:

* In which areas of my life do I recognize I have determination?

* What excites me?

* What am I proud of in myself and my achievements?

* What will make me feel satisfied?

* What motivates me to act consistently and persistently?

* What do I love about myself?

* What fascinates me in the world?

* Which specific experience I recall proves to me that I am capable?

Think of each question. Allow your subconscious to bring the answer from within you.

Feel how these empowering questions generate feelings of joy, satisfaction, enthusiasm, self-belief, hope, and excitement, and how as a result of the positive emotions you create, you overcome external events and feel good in almost any situation, empowering you and allowing you not to give up on the goals you set for yourself.

Failure is where you throw in the towel.

Bottom Line:

Practice every day with empowering questions.

Add questions that make you feel good.

Write in your gratitude journal the feelings you experience following changes in questions.

Focus on your strengths.

Remember, you are responsible for your inner world, regardless of external events.

Feel good about yourself.

Achieve any goal you desire.

Want to know more about my method, and learn how to truly lose weight? Sign up for the "Smart Diet" workshop at the Jewish Campus.

Dr. Rina Mordo, Ph.D, is a nutrition coach combining the subconscious and NLP.