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Have you ever encountered a person who can’t stop talking? Whether with friends, at work, or family, this can be both annoying and harmful. This condition is known as "talkaholism" or compulsive talking. 

Why does the phenomenon exist?

1. Communication needs and expression of emotions

Communication is a basic human need. For some of us, the need to communicate and express feelings is particularly strong. These people may feel the need to speak excessively to cope with stress, reveal emotions, or gain attention.

2. Desire for attention

Those suffering from compulsive talking may seek recognition and approval from their surroundings through ceaseless talking. This feeling may stem from a sense of inferiority or lack of self-esteem.

3. Personality patterns

Certain personality traits may lead to compulsive talking. People who are extroverted or prone to chattering might be more susceptible to talkaholism. Additionally, difficulties with self-regulation and self-control can contribute to this phenomenon.

How is it harmful?

1. Damage to interpersonal communication

When a person talks incessantly, it can be challenging for others to voice their opinions, present ideas, or express feelings. This imbalance can lead to frustration and distance among friends, family members, and colleagues.

2. Damage to image and social relationships

People suffering from talkaholism may be perceived as narcissistic, annoying, or self-centered. This image can harm social relationships and personal connections. It may also lead to people distancing themselves, which results in loneliness and alienation.

3. Work delays and efficiency

In work environments, compulsive talking can hinder productivity and efficiency. Excessive and continuous talking can distract other workers, delay projects, and affect task execution.

How can it be treated?

1. Identifying motives and causes

The first step in treating talkaholism is identifying the motives and causes of the phenomenon. Is it a need to express emotions? A desire for attention? Or maybe certain personality patterns? Identifying the causes allows for more focused and effective treatment.

2. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)

Cognitive-behavioral therapy is an effective tool for treating talkaholism. This therapy focuses on identifying and changing unhealthy thinking and behavior patterns. Through CBT, individuals can develop tools for self-regulation, improved communication, and reduced urge to talk incessantly.

3. Training in time management and speech

Training in time management and speech can help those suffering from talkaholism learn how to limit their speaking time and plan their speech more efficiently. Designating "talk times" and limiting the duration of discussions on specific topics can be beneficial.

4. Developing listening skills

Developing listening skills can improve interpersonal communication and reduce the need for constant talking. These skills include active listening, non-verbal listening, and asking open-ended questions. When a person learns to listen actively, they reduce the urge to talk and enhance genuine interaction with others.

5. Group support

Participation in support groups can be a significant tool in treating talkaholism. In these groups, individuals can share experiences, learn from the experience of others, and receive support and encouragement. Support groups provide a sense that individuals are not alone in their struggle and offer them tools to cope with the problem.

Talkaholism or compulsive talking is a complex phenomenon that can harm interpersonal communication, damage image and social relationships, and delay work efficiency. However, it can be treated through identifying motives, cognitive-behavioral therapy, training in time management and speech, developing listening skills, and group support. Understanding the phenomenon and proper treatment can enhance the quality of life for those suffering from talkaholism and help them maintain healthy and effective communication with their surroundings.