Unmasking Narcissism: The Common Types You Need to Know

One of the most prominent features of people with narcissistic traits is the covert way they operate, subtly exerting control and dominance over others. Knowledge and awareness is therefore of great importance when navigating such relationships.

The purpose of the following information is to provide general awareness but it by no means serves as a formal diagnosis. If you suspect that someone may fit this profile, it’s crucial to proceed with caution and protect yourself and your children, until you can consult with professionals who specialize in this area.

Key Characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Traits

individuals with narcissistic tendencies typically present several of the following traits:

• Difficulty with self-regulation

• Use of manipulation to control others

• Aggressiveness or domineering behavior in various forms

• Grandiosity

• Difficulty forming intimate relationships

• Lack of empathy or impaired empathy

• Self-centeredness

• Internal emptiness

• A sense of superiority over others

• Limited self-reflection and insight

• Denial, perfectionism, shame, and control

• Diminishing or invalidating others

• Difficulty accepting criticism

The Overt Narcissist (Classic Type)

This person exhibits a strong sense of grandiosity- they feel superior, impressive, and exceptional. They may be charismatic, ambitious, and successful in fields that are outwardly recognized by society. For example: the "brilliant scholar," the "perfect wife" (which can be interpreted in many ways), or the "career achiever."

They speak eloquently, are sharp, highly competitive, and may indeed be successful in business. At the same time, they can be aggressive, arrogant, dismissive of others, controlling -even within their own family- and usually well-groomed and outwardly attractive.

They may seem charming and impressive, until things become more personal, which is when the real problems emerge.

If they’re in a managerial role, for example, their behavior toward employees may reveal their true nature. They don’t work cooperatively or value teamwork.

The Covert Narcissist (Vulnerable Type)

On the surface, they may appear very average- perhaps not particularly good-looking or charismatic. However, they carry a deep internal sense of grandiosity, believing that they are the center of the universe and that their problems or existence are more important than anyone else’s.

This person may come across as shy or “gentle,” using that quietness to draw attention and sympathy. Their entire focus, however, remains on themselves.

Their supposed humility is a tool for gaining attention or resources- phrases such as, “Only you can understand me,” are just another form of manipulation. They may even engage in deceitful or dangerous behavior, using victimhood to manipulate others emotionally.

They will rarely offer genuine help unless they gain something from it.

The Malignant Narcissist

This is the most dangerous type. Most of their actions are covert. They are grandiose, deceitful, and don’t hesitate to cross ethical boundaries. Rules and laws don’t apply to them.

They possess highly manipulative abilities and can push others to cross their own moral limits. For instance, convincing someone to commit minor crimes or justifying unethical actions by saying, “Everyone does it,” even when it's untrue.

They’re skilled at providing justifications that make their wrongdoings sound logical, but they know exactly what they’re doing. This is not ignorance or naivety, but calculated and deliberate.

These individuals may display deviant behaviors, lacking conscience or empathy. Outwardly, they can seem sweet, innocent, even baby-faced, but this has nothing to do with the malignant dysfunction inside.

Their behaviors often resemble psychopathy, and there are indeed many overlaps. However, one key difference is that a malignant narcissist can experience depression and even shame- not shame for harming others, but shame over being caught. A psychopath, on the other hand, feels nothing.

These issues are complex. If something feels off, don’t ignore it. Always consult with professionals.

It’s important to stress that even if you’re trying to give someone the benefit of the doubt, don’t delay investigation or action. Sometimes, being too lenient allows pathology to grow and continue to harm others.

In the next article, we’ll continue exploring other narcissistic types.

Dr. Ada Michal Weinstein is a certified psychodrama therapist specializing in narcissism, and works with victims of narcissists.