A Soldier, a Discount, and a Teachable Moment: Choosing Kindness Over Criticism

It all started with a simple request: an American soldier walked into a fast food restaurant and politely asked if there was a military discount for his meal. Most people in the restaurant- including the waitress- saw nothing unusual in that. In many countries, it’s a given that those who serve receive a small token of appreciation.

One woman, clearly agitated, raised her voice at the waitress. “Excuse me- why should he get special treatment just because he’s a soldier?” she snapped, as the server went to check what kind of discount was available.

Other diners were quick to speak up, politely challenging the woman’s attitude. But she stood her ground. “My kids served in the military too,” she said sharply. “So what?”

The soldier, meanwhile, stood in line, unsure how to respond. He could have lashed out, matched her tone, or even walked away insulted. But instead, he took a breath, and chose a different path.

With calm respect, he turned to her and said: “Ma’am, when you see a soldier getting a military discount- whether it’s a few cents or a couple of dollars off- I ask you to pause for a moment and think about what that person might have sacrificed to earn it.

“Not just me. Every soldier. We put ourselves in dangerous situations to protect your safety and the safety of your family. We miss holidays, birthdays, and weddings, so others can enjoy theirs in peace. And we do it not for a day or two, but for years.

“This isn’t about ‘special privileges.’ A discount on a burger isn’t a privilege. You know what is? Making it home alive. Living in a country where you’re free from war. Sitting with your family for dinner or celebrating a birthday. Those are privileges. I’m not telling you how to think- but I hope you’ll remember that some people give up their own rights so that others can keep theirs.”

The room fell silent. Then, one of the other customers stood up and quietly told the cashier she’d be paying for the soldier’s meal- and two more for his future visits.

“What happened today reminded me how important it is to appreciate those who do things for us,” she said. “Not just soldiers, but anyone. A homeless person. An elderly man. A stranger in need. Everyone deserves a little kindness. I don’t think I did anything special- I think it was just a reminder not to wait for moments like these to realize how necessary giving really is.”

The story quickly went viral on social media, sparking tens of thousands of reactions. Most were furious at the woman’s initial comment, and overwhelmingly supportive of the soldier’s grace and message.

Now we ask you- what would you have done?

A Jewish Perspective

In Judaism, hakarat hatov- recognizing the good- is a foundational value. The Torah commands us to express gratitude even to Egypt, despite the suffering we endured there, simply because Egypt once hosted us in a time of need (Devarim 23:8). If that’s the standard for an enemy, how much more so for someone who puts their life on the line for our safety.

Moreover, kavod habriyot- honoring every human being- is a central mitzvah. This story isn’t only about soldiers, but about seeing the divine image in every person and remembering that a few dollars, a kind word, or even just a smile can be transformative.

Let’s be the ones who pay forward kindness. The smallest gestures, when wrapped in dignity and love, can echo for a lifetime.