Deadly Words: 10 Things You Should Never Say to Someone Trying to Lose Weight

When we see friends, family members, or acquaintances who are in the process of losing weight, our intentions are usually good—encouragement, support, or even offering advice. But sometimes, what is said with good intentions can be misunderstood and cause discomfort, confusion, or a sense of helplessness. So what should you not say to someone trying to lose weight? Here are 10 things to avoid:

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1. "Are you sure you can eat that?"

One of the most hurtful and unpleasant questions a person can hear. People who are in the process of losing weight are well aware of what they eat, and this question can provoke a sense of criticism and doubt in their ability to stick to their decisions.

2. "It looks like you haven't lost anything!"

Weight loss is a long and patient process. Comments like this can lower motivation and create a sense of failure, even if the person has already made significant progress. It's important to remember that every body reacts differently, and the rate of change has many factors.

3. "I never eat fattening foods, maybe you should too?"

Sharing a personal experience as a message can create a feeling of alienation. A person in a weight loss process doesn't want to hear about your habits—they need support and understanding, not comparisons that may feel insulting.

4. "You've tried so many diets already; what's different this time?"

The process of losing weight is not a straight line. Everyone tries different methods until they find what suits them, and this question creates a feeling of distrust in the person's determination and abilities to succeed.

5. "I just saw a diet that's perfect for you!"

Unless the person asked for advice, it's best to avoid offering new programs or diets. People trying to lose weight usually do in-depth research and understand what's right for them.

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6. "I think you're overdoing it with all this."

The process of losing weight sometimes requires focus and discipline, and such a remark can hurt and cast doubt on the person's commitment to their goals. It's important to provide support and not judge the persistence.

7. "Just eat less!"

This remark is not only insulting but also ignores the complexity of the weight loss process. This process involves not just what you eat, but how you eat, when you eat, the levels of physical activity, and the mental state.

8. "I think you're becoming obsessed with it."

When someone invests a lot of time and thought in the process of losing weight, it is part of their learning and change process. It is advisable to be cautious not to project personal judgment on the commitment they feel towards themselves.

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9. "You looked much better before you started the diet."

When a person undergoes a physical transformation, it is a very sensitive period. Such statements can lead the person to self-doubt and diminish their motivation to continue on their chosen path.

10. "There's no way you can maintain this long-term."

Such a statement is one of the most hurtful that can be heard during a change process. It drains all hope and determination from the person and sends the message that they aren't capable enough to meet the challenge.

It is important to remember that the weight loss process is not just a physical effort, but also an emotional and mental journey. Every word we say can have an impact, so it's crucial to provide support, understanding, and encouragement—not criticism, even if it's said with good intentions. Always remember, each person goes through the process at their own pace and in a way that suits them, and our role is to empower them, not make it harder.